Over the past few years the world has been taken by storm by reality TV shows. Our screens are inundated with people looking for love, creating intricate dishes in the kitchen, baking and decorating elaborate cakes, restoring homes, choosing wedding dresses, swapping husbands, losing weight, singing, dancing, creating the ultimate tattoo – it’s too long a list to mention them all!
Whilst I have very little interest in those who are searching for five minutes of fame, I do acknowledge those who are chasing a dream that takes skill, talent and passion. Think Masterchef and The Voice.
I acknowledge them for their bravery to be visible on a scale most people wouldn’t dare.
They present their creations and their gifts to a panel of judges, an audience and the public and wait to be critiqued. Extraordinary courage.
When was the last time you had the courage to be visible?
To be the first to introduce yourself at a networking event?
To tell your boss what she’s offering is not what you need, then telling her what is?
To enter an authentic and honest conversation with a team member addressing their performance?
To put forth your radical idea in a team meeting?
To say no to someone, with elegance and grace?
To request to lead the next team project?
To present this month’s results at the next all staff meeting?
To create a vision for your team and communicate it with such clarity and excitement they make it their vision too?
To step into your superior’s role whilst she’s away?
To put your hand up for a promotion?
To apply for that role that feels out of your league?
Leading a team or organisation makes you visible. Being the face of your business makes you visible. Speaking up in the meeting makes you visible. Applying for a promotion makes you visible. Leading the next big project makes you visible. In fact, 2020, has required leaders to be more visible than previous years – some on a world scale.
And for some, the fear being visible creates is too uncomfortable to step into. What if you fail, or fall, or stumble, are laughed at, or ridiculed or criticised? Or, often worst of all, what if someone doesn’t like your message or your offering or your idea or….gulp….you?
But staying small or silent or frozen creates discomfort too, because we are not made to sit still. It’s not our natural state.
What if you could learn to become more comfortable with the uncomfortableness of being visible? What if you could learn to step out of the shadows and show your gifts and skills and strengths? Even uncover new ones?
Great news – you can! And here are are my top 5 tips on how to do so:
1. You can’t please everyone all of the time.
I first leaned into this in the leadership role I held in the corporate sector. I couldn’t please everyone (as much as I wanted to!) but I could be fair and reasonable, so that’s what I focused on.
With Sky High, coaching is a relationship. Sometimes I am not a fit with someone and that’s okay – there will be another coach out there who is perfect for them. Sometimes people will not agree with my messages or methodology, and that's okay too. It's all part of the rich tapestry of our community.
2. Small steps to consistency.
We tend to become truly comfortable with something when we’ve performed it so many times that we no longer fear it. Take the first step – no matter how small it is – then repeat and repeat.
3. Show your passion.
Let’s flick back to reality TV for a moment – those who do well on the ‘skill shows’ have a true passion for their craft. They are open to the criticism they receive, and adjust accordingly. They expand and grow – never losing sight of their passion. These are the contestants who, when they are eliminated, gush over the positivity of the experience and everything they’ve learned. They are excited to return home and keep working on, and in, their passion with their new skills! If you want to speak up, it's usually because you have something to share that you're passionate about. Use that passion.
4. Live aligned with your values.
Do you know your top 5 values? Those most important to you right now? Uncover what these are and live your life aligned with them. You will then be living a life that’s authentic to YOU and it doesn’t matter what others think or say.
5. Design your own coping strategies.
Recently I had a challenging week. Every day I was hit with something new, including comments I would not have received if I wasn’t out there being visible. The more visible I become, the more exposed I will be.
On the flip side, there are people who genuinely desire my support, so I will continue moving forward. Creating articles, videos, programs, offerings and shouting about them from the rooftops! Serving you is MY passion, and I won’t apologise for it, but I do sometimes call on my coping strategies. Reaching out to my cheerleaders and coaches, meditating, walks in nature, exercising and scheduling fun activities.
So whilst they often come under a barrage of criticism and opinion, I give a big cheer to the amateur chefs, cooks, artistic performers, renovators, tattooists and bakers battling it out on TV.
I give a big cheer to the leaders focusing on improvements for their team, organisation, community, country and sometimes the world!
Thanks for having the courage to be visible and inspiring the rest of us.
Would you love to spend the next six months learning to become MORE VISIBLE? What would you create? What would you do? Who would you become, if you had a little more courage to be visible? Who would YOU inspire with your valiant visibility? If you would like to learn to become more visible in your business or career, I invite you to click on the link below and read about my new program - Level Up Your Leadership which is open RIGHT NOW. No waiting! As soon as we say YES, we start. CLICK HERE FOR ALL THE INFORMATION Until I see you again, stay healthy and safe.
MY MISSION is for everyone on the planet to find their VOICE, step into their POWER and SHINE their light out into the world. I do this by helping high performers expand their minds, create whatever it is they wish then lead from the front.