"I'm Sorry, But I Didn't Find the Coaching Enjoyable."
This is the feedback I returned to when catching up on some emails that arrived whilst I was on my Christmas break. And it made me smile and smile and smile.
You see, this particular client had put so much heart, soul and COURAGE into our coaching that every conversation was a deep and moving experience for her.
She followed up the above quote with: “I enjoyed you, Janelle, but it was not a comfortable process.” She then went to describe how she is now showing up differently in her life and place of work. She did, and is still, moving though some wonderful transformation which recently resulted in an impressive promotion.
It reminded me of a meeting I went to in 2018. A woman had approached me about a new business she was starting up. She thought that she and I could do some great work together because, and I quote: “We do the same thing you and I. We make people feel good.”
Ummm. Actually, no. That is not my job at all.
Nowhere, in my job description, does it say I’m here to make my clients feel good - they have partners, friends and family for that.
My job is to help clients create a powerful vision, put a strategy in place to make it appear, harness their skills and strengths and break through the psychological barriers holding them back. I challenge they way they see the world by not buying into the stories they tell themselves. I remind them how powerful they are.
If doing the above results in them feeling more confident, bolder, courageous, purposeful and accomplished and that leads to them feeling good – yippee! But feeling good is the result of a lot of hard work.
And usually quite a few uncomfortable moments.
You cannot transform yourself or your life without feeling uncomfortable. I don’t have a magic wand and neither does anyone else (even if they say they do). It’s you that has to step outside of what you know to open the door to the other side. And usually (and most excitingly) there is not only one other side. There are multiple opportunities for you to choose from.
My clients do not want (or even ask) me to make them feel good. They want me to show them how to see the world outside the frame they live in, and sometimes breaking through that frame causes a scratch or two.
If you are ready to spend the first half of 2019 reaping the benefits that come from feeling uncomfortable with me, I have a range of ways you can do so.
1. Join me, and my wonderful community (which I receive many compliments about, so thanks everyone) at my 2 Day Intensive in Melbourne this March. The theme this year is Expand, Create and Lead. Only 7 seats left. All the details are here: http://www.skyhighcoaching.com.au/workshops
2. The current Salon is now open. Deep coaching in a group of 5 or less over 6 months. This is an immersion of creation (of whatever you choose to create) and not for the faint of heart. Those who love team and comradery enjoy the Salon. All the details are here: http://www.skyhighcoaching.com.au/skyhighcoachingsalon
3. The end of 2018 saw some private 1-to-1 clients complete their program, which has opened up limited places. Click here if you’d like to know to work with me directly, Yep, just you and I. There’s nowhere to hide: http://www.skyhighcoaching.com.au/work-with-janelle
Thanks for reading and, until next time, don't be afraid to step into a little uncomfortableness.