"I'm Sorry, But I Didn't Find the Coaching Enjoyable."
This is the feedback I returned to when catching up on some emails that arrived whilst I was on a recent break. And it made me smile and smile and smile.
You see, this particular client had put so much heart, soul and COURAGE into our coaching that every conversation was a deep and moving experience for her.
She followed up the above quote with: “I enjoyed YOU, Janelle, but it was not a comfortable process.” She then went to describe how she is now showing up differently in her life and place of work. She did, and is still, moving though a powerful personal and professional transformation which recently resulted in a seriously impressive career promotion.
It reminded me of a meeting I went to in 2018. A woman had approached me about a new business she was starting up. She thought that she and I could do some great work together because, and I quote: “We do the same thing you and I. We make people feel good.”
Ummm. Actually, no. That is not my job at all.
Nowhere, in my job description, does it say I’m here to make my clients feel good - they have partners, friends and family for that.
My job is to help clients create a powerful vision, put a strategy in place to make it appear, harness their skills and strengths and break through the psychological barriers holding them back. I challenge they way they see the world by not buying into the stories they tell themselves. I remind them how powerful they are.
If doing the above results in them feeling more confident, bolder, courageous, purposeful and accomplished and that leads to them feeling good – yippee! But "feeling good" is the result of a lot of hard work.
And usually quite a few uncomfortable moments.
You cannot transform yourself or your life without feeling uncomfortable. I don’t have a magic wand and neither does anyone else (even if they say they do). It’s YOU who has to step outside of what you know to open the door to the other side. And usually (and most excitingly) there is not only one other side. There are multiple opportunities for you to choose from.
My clients do not want (or even ask) me to make them feel good. They want me to show them how to see the world outside the frame they live in, even if breaking through that frame causes a scratch or two.
If you are ready to spend the second half of 2020 reaping the benefits that come from feeling uncomfortable with me, I currently have two opportunities available right now.
The current Level-Up Your Leadership Lounge has ONE SEAT AVAILABLE. Deep leadership coaching in a small group for 6 months. Emerge from the Lounge a more confident, courage and inspirational leader. All the details are here: https://www.skyhighcoaching.com.au/levelupyourleadership
The end of the recent financial year saw some private 1-to-1 clients complete their program, which has opened up limited places. Click here if you’d like to know to work with me directly, Yep, just you and I. There’s nowhere to hide: http://www.skyhighcoaching.com.au/work-with-janelle
Thanks for reading and, until next time, don't be afraid to step into a little uncomfortableness.