Who is Ultimately Responsible for Your Life?
I've just returned from the most wonderful retreat on the Sunshine Coast in Queensland Australia. I spent a long weekend in a tree house with a group of women who'd taken some leave from work; made arrangements for the family; got on a plane and invested emotionally, financially and physically in themselves. It was humbling to be in their presence. They chose to slow down and take some time out, just for them. They chose to remove themselves from their familiar surroundings so they could immerse themselves in……well, themselves. These women understand that whilst they have partners, spouses, family, friends, employers and clients THEY are ultimately responsible for their own lives. You were born with no concept of guilt. It’s why a Toddler A can hit Toddler B over the head to reclaim their toy truck and wander off without one ounce of guilt. You were born with the freedom to want what you want. It’s why Toddler B stole Toddler A’s toy truck in the first place. You were born with the gifts (unique to you) to create whatever it is YOU desire. And I can guarantee, without a doubt, you haven’t unwrapped all those gifts yet. Along the way we receive verbal and physical cues that teach us what is acceptable in our family and community and what is not. Of course we want to teach our toddlers it’s not great to take something that isn’t ours, nor is it acceptable to reclaim our truck via a violent act. But when guilt holds you back from taking what is rightfully yours. When stiflingly what you want keeps you trapped in a soul-sucking job, a toxic relationship or spending all your time ‘making other people happy’. When fear stops you from stepping into something new or bigger and bolder than ever before so you never have a chance to peek inside, let alone open, your unwrapped gifts. When self-doubt robs you of using your voice and prevents you from whispering/saying/shouting THIS IS WHAT I WANT AND NEED to those in your personal and professional life. When stopping or slowing down in your life terrifies you because of what you may see if you take a look around. When you stop yourself from investing in yourself and your dreams because you’ve been conditioned to put yourself last. When you live your life aligned with someone else’s dreams. You stay frozen in familiar routines, familiar jobs, familiar relationships, familiar ‘busy-ness’, familiar habits and a familiar mindset. And sometimes that familiarity ain’t so comfortable. But it’s safe, right? Safe from feeling guilty, safe from potentially upsetting others, safe from risk, safe from failure, safe from success, safe from visibility. But here’s the kicker – living in this place tends to breed unhappiness, discontent, resentment, anger, irritation, overwhelm, stress and illness. Because of the part of you that wants more. The part of you that craves to come out. The part of you that is pushing you to expand to your full potential. The part of you that knows what you’re capable of keeps tap, tap, tapping away. Those flashes of inspiration, great ideas and Technicolor dreams just won’t quit!! And until you honour them, they never will. Honouring them doesn’t have to mean selling all your worldly possessions, saying “See ya! I’m outta here!” to your spouse and kids and moving to the Caribbean. Don’t get me wrong, It CAN be if that’s what you wish. It can also be taking some time for yourself, going on a solo holiday, telling your boss your career aspirations, setting some boundaries around your time and energy, joining that yoga class, starting a side business, writing the book that’s been inside you for years, going on a date, exploring a more fulfilling relationship with your partner. I could go on and on, but I won't. I invite you to lean into the knowledge that whilst we love and nurture our relationships with the people around us, in the end we are responsible for our own lives. If you'd like to begin to honour those flashes of inspiration, great ideas and Technicolor dreams, with my support, please scroll down to check out my upcoming free webinars along with deeper ways to work together.
My name is Janelle Ryan and MY MISSION is for everyone on the planet to find their VOICE, step into their POWER and SHINE their light out into the world. I do this by helping high performers expand their minds, create whatever it is they wish then lead from the front.
When you are ready to take the next step to expansion, creation and leadership here are a couple of ways we can work together.
1. July FREE webinar is titled HOW TO CREATE MORE TIME AND ENERGY for yourself. Stop running get off the treadmill and start using time on your terms! I give you ONE tool that changes everything. CLICK HERE to register.
2. August FREE webinar is titled HOW TO SMASH THROUGH SELF SABOTAGE. Master this, master your life. CLICK HERE to register.
3. There are limited places remaining in the final 2019 SKY HIGH COACHING SALON. 7 months group coaching for high performers. Past Salonies have stepped into a promotion, expanded their business, created more money, fallen in love, enjoyed better health (physically and mentally) and forged friendships for life. We start in September. For all the info CLICK HERE.
4. If you prefer a more personal touch, there are limited places available for 1:1 PRIVATE COACHING with me. Just you and me - there's nowhere to hide. To apply CLICK HERE.